What is Grief?

If you suppress grief too much it can well redouble.
-Moliere

Grief is the emotional reaction caused by an important loss in our lives. Because each one of us have our own history, the way to express grief varies from person to person. It is important to keep in mind that we should never judge the grieving process of another person based on our own reality.

One of the most common questions people ask is how they will experience grief and although one may have an idea of how one will react we can never know for sure. For example, as we experience the loss of a loved one due to death, we could react screaming, crying or by keeping silent. We may share our grief with someone or stay quiet. We may write our thoughts in a journal or search our religious beliefs. Let's learn to live the process of grief.

Grief is like a rollercoaster - it goes up and down, sometimes in a sudden manner, other times more subtly, but it is never constant. It is unreasonable to assume one can dictate a person's grieving time. At times, just when one assumes the most difficult stage is over, we face an anniversary, a birthday or a special date and this situation can provoke the most painful reaction in our soul . Let's allow our hearts to experience the feelings. Let's not repress them. Feelings may hit us like a huge wave. As we see the huge wave, we can chose to ride it so it can take us to the shore, run away from it or dive into it. Out of these three possibilities the best one would be to ride with it. It is the same with grief. Let's not fight it back. Let's face it, experience it and continue in our life path.

What are you experiencing? Take a piece of paper and write down your feelings - it may help you to release them.

I wish you a beautiful month and remember.....as you transform your loss you can change your life!!